Updated: Nov 2
If there’s one thing I learned over the last several years, it’s gaining confidence. I come from years and years of battling insecurities. No matter how extroverted I was and comfortable I was saying what was on my mind or being silly, I still lacked confidence. I was always comparing myself to others, especially in the looks department, and constantly seeking validation & attention. I felt like I was never liked enough by guys I dated which caused me to be so jealous in my previous relationships. I was torturing myself. I look back at photos of myself and think “how did I call myself ugly?” Why wasn’t I happy with this beautiful girl? Perhaps years of being teased & bullied will do that to you.
Since turning 30, I made it a point to overcome that by focusing on developing self-love, self-worth, and self-confidence. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not confident in myself 100% of the time. There’s no on/off switch for confidence. It takes time and work. We’re human, not robots. It’s normal to feel that we look like crap from time to time or that we’re not enough, but what it comes down to is how much time and energy we focus on those negative thoughts.